"Most Pagans get up at ungodly hours (or come home at them), wash their faces with soap and water instead of hand-gathered pixie dust and lily dew, and spend too long of a grueling work day at computers, counters, on phones, etc. and guzzle coffee to stay alert. They definitely do not have time to arrange a spell involving 90 candles, seven days' worth of chanting, and several hours of quiet, healing bath time."
I've read many books written by very sincere people who describe some version of a basic Pagan ritual (casting a circle, etc.). My own website has such a page.
There are two countervailing considerations here:
1. The Goddess is special, and we should set aside time to honor her and commune with her. Many of us make plans to spend time meditating and/or circling on weekends (somehow we never seem to actually do it). An elaborate, formal ritual shows respect for her. She is our true Mother. We shouldn't just "pencil her in" between mowing the lawn and the trip to the grocery store "Okay, let's see, I have thirty minutes here on Saturday morning ... now where did I put the wand and that little cauldron?"
2. On the other hand, if we wait until we have a solid hour when (a) we don't have anything else planned and (b) we can be alone and (c) we won't be distracted or intruded upon, then we (basically) never do any circling at all. It just never happens. It's like that exercise program we think about starting (remember your doctor telling you that you should go walking at least three times a week?). It's a good idea, and we think about it a lot, and we never do it.
I suggest a compromise: Simplified Ritual.
A trimmed-down version is better than never communing with her at all.
In the Olden Days (1250 CE, let's say), when there were no cell phones nor television sets (there weren't even any BOOKS), people had fewer distractions and fewer intrusions into their lives. You did your work during the daylight hours, and when the sun went down, you couldn't work any more. The living room was a very quiet place, dark, perhaps with a single oil lamp burning. People actually talked to each other. The old folks would tell stories to entertain the younger folks (you could think of this as an early version of radio plays).
In some ways, it was a better time, even though they didn't have penicillin, novocaine, or internal combustion engines.
Some kind of regular "time with the Goddess" is better than none at all. If you feel that every "circle time" has to be something elaborate, with 60 pounds of equipment, then you'll avoid it, and it won't ever happen. Write up a format for a simple ritual, or use mine.
- Athena Prime